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Hi, I think you did an amazing job! I want someone like you to help me so I am going to have a look at Ancestry Expert!
I have hit so many brick walls in discovering my family but what I have discovered has freed me - I know now the type of people from whom I descend and who helped shape me - now I know where a love of words came from; where staunch beliefs came from. I am from New Zealand and live in Australia but we have excitingly discovered our father's family came from the USA. Because we don't know it very well at all (and yes we do have Google) it has been difficult to research things like born in Virginia in 1795 - okay that's great - but where? No idea...oh and then there are no records - oh....but we do have his Probate, - great, but no will.
People like you deserve appreciation - you are amazing!
Hi Lisa,
This reminds me of the book, The Sweeter the Juice, which is about a family that separates into those who can "pass" for white and those who can't. It's a true story, about sisters who were separated for about 70 years.
That being said, some people are going to be surprised by what they find. This client didn't find her surprise pleasant. You didn't mention her approximate age--my guess is that age makes a difference. I think those of us born after Civil Rights era would be less shocked than those born before.
Give her some time. She may come around.
I think you are handling things very well.
WOW, well I'm sorry you're going through this.
if I could afford to pay a pro to research my family, I would be happy with any info you found.
doing family tree research, its needs to be accepted that what you find may not be what you expect or want to hear..but if its accurate info then there's not much you can do about it.
personally I feel you handled the situation as a true professional, and I do not see how it could have been handled differently. If the potential client is not appreciative that you took the time and did this research already and found this much information, with out being paid. maybe remind her that A LOT of people especially with african heritage can barely go back that far.
I haven't found and confirmed any skeletons in my closet,( I heard from a 2nd cousin who told me a story of my g-grandmother being an illegitimate child of an affiar with a teenage girl, but no records to confirm it just yet ) but if I do, hopefully i react a bit better than the clinet did.
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